The Vows The wedding vow is intended as a personal expression of each person’s commitment to marriage. As such, the vows can vary with each wedding. Some couples will choose traditional vows, preferring the words they have heard before by family members or friends. Other couples will wish to present their own written vows, making the moment more of a personal reflection. The minister should view either approach as acceptable, provided a few key elements are included. First, vows should reference